The case presented below clearly and deeply reflects how certain seemingly individual conflicts are rooted in family dynamics that span generations. It involves a woman, dedicated to working with children, who comes to consultation facing a specific difficulty: being unable to breastfeed her baby. However, as often happens in these processes, the visible symptom opens the door to a much broader story, where the body, emotions, and family memory engage in a silent yet persistent dialogue.
Reason for consultation and the language of the symptom
The initial conflict centers on the inability to breastfeed. This issue does not appear in isolation but is accompanied by physical manifestations such as dermatitis, asthma, vision problems, and other emotional expressions that communicate, in a different language, what has not been consciously processed.
Dermatitis is linked to an real experience of separation from the father. Asthma is associated with the perception of a suffocating mother. Vision problems, such as astigmatism and myopia, reflect a difficulty in continuing to see the father with love. Finally, the presence of a wart is related to deep self-criticism, especially regarding her identity as a mother.
In this case, the body does not fail; it communicates.
Biography: the construction of an inner experience
The consultant’s life story is marked by her parents’ separation when she was nine years old. This event not only represents a family rupture but also the beginning of an emotional experience of abandonment and separation that will repeat itself at different moments in her life.
In adulthood, she marries, becomes a mother, and migrates to the United States. After the birth of her first child, she experiences postpartum depression characterized by emotional disconnection, loneliness, and guilt. This moment pushes her to seek help and begin a healing journey that eventually leads her to the Transgenerational approach.
With the birth of her second daughter, the conflict reappears, now with greater intensity, especially around breastfeeding.
The family tree: repetition of Not Breastfeeding
When exploring her family history, a striking pattern emerges: the inability to breastfeed repeats across several generations.
The client was not breastfed by her mother. Her mother was not breastfed either. Her husband was not breastfed by his mother. The paternal grandfather is also part of this chain. Now, her own baby repeat this difficulty.
This pattern does not appear as a coincidence but as a Transgenerational memory that is transmitted and reactivated. The baby’s lack of strength to latch ceases to be merely a clinical detail and begins to be understood as a symptom loaded with history.
Project sense: the emotional origin before birth
To understand the root of the conflict, it is essential to observe the project sense, meaning the emotional context in which she was conceived and gestated.
Nine months before conception, her mother becomes pregnant with the unconscious intention of preventing her partner from leaving. During pregnancy, emotions of loneliness, fear, and lack of protection dominate. In the early years of life, this experience is confirmed by the father’s absence.
The implicit message becomes clear: the bond with a man is unstable, and motherhood is tied to sacrifice.
Childhood wounds: rejection, abandonment, and humiliation
From her story, three main wounds are configured.
The wound of rejection is established from the beginning, as she was conceived in a context where she was not fully desired. The wound of abandonment is reinforced by the father’s absence. The wound of humiliation appears in the relationship with the mother, especially when she was criticized for asking her father for things.
These wounds not only shape her childhood but also condition how she relates in adulthood, particularly as a partner and a mother.
Invisible loyalties and doubles
The consultant maintains an unconscious loyalty to her mother. Both women marry as a way to leave their homes, and both reproduce, at different levels, the difficulty of experiencing motherhood from a place of enjoyment.
Additionally, her husband appears as a double of her father, not only symbolically but also through coincidences in name and date of birth. This reinforces the repetition of abandonment, now projected onto her partner.
In this context, the husband is no longer just the present partner but unconsciously represents the absent father.
Biological memory cycle: the repetition of emotions
One of the most revealing aspects of the case is the repetition of the same emotional pattern over time. The predominant emotions are fear, sadness, and abandonment.
This repetition can be visualized as follows:
Project sense (gestation and early years) ─ 7 years ─ 9 years ─ 14 years ─ 28 years (first child)
Loneliness and fear of abandonment | Fear and sadness | Abandonment and pain | Sadness and abandonment | Abandonment, fear, and guilt
This cycle shows how the present is not independent of the past. Each event reactivates a previous emotional memory.
Unconscious beliefs sustaining the conflict
Throughout her life, the consultant has developed a series of unconscious beliefs.
- Children belong to the mother.
- Men abandon when faced with responsibility.
- Motherhood is difficult, lonely and painful.
- Breastfeeding implies loss of freedom.
- Raising children is exhausting.
These beliefs not only explain her current experience but also shape her decisions and emotions.
The moment of awareness
A turning point occurs when the consultant speaks with her mother and hears that she did not want to become a mother when she became pregnant.
This moment is deeply painful but also revealing. She understands that many of her emotions, including guilt, do not fully belong to her.
A new understanding emerges: the rejection she felt was not personal but part of a larger story.
This insight leads her into an intense emotional moment, where hitting bottom becomes an opportunity for transformation.
Resignifying motherhood
From this process, a new possibility begins to emerge: experiencing motherhood from a different place.
She is invited to resignify the act of feeding, understanding that it is not limited to breastfeeding. A bottle can also be an act of love when it is filled with intention and presence.
The importance of creating intimate spaces of connection with the baby is emphasized, free from distractions, where the bond can arise from enjoyment rather than obligation.
She is also encouraged to release self-demand and rigid expectations, allowing herself to be a more human and less perfect mother.
Healing acts and inner movement
Tools and resources include writing letters, symbolic rituals, connection with nature, and conscious acts of emotional nourishment.
Beyond the techniques, the essential shift is internal:
- Moving from duty to feeling
- From guilt to understanding
- From self-demand to permission
Integrating the story to choose differently
The analysis concludes that the root of the conflict comes from both family lineages and that partners may unconsciously represent parental figures.
The difficulty in breastfeeding is no longer seen as an isolated problem but as the expression of an unresolved history.
The consultant’s evolution does not mean everything is resolved, but she has begun to integrate a new perspective. She feels more compassionate toward herself and other mothers and begins to experience changes in how she lives motherhood.
Healing, in this context, does not mean erasing the past but understanding it deeply in order to stop repeating it. From there, motherhood can transform into a space of connection, not only with her baby but also with a more conscious and freer version of herself.