Infertility Beyond Biology
When we hear the word infertility, the first thought is often about medical or biological problems. Yet, there are many situations where both partners are physically healthy, but pregnancy still does not occur.
From a transgenerational perspective, infertility is not always a matter of the body—it can be an inherited unconscious program passed down through the family tree.
Invisible Inheritances
Both the maternal and paternal lineages transmit more than just DNA. They also carry emotional memories that may affect our ability to conceive. These unprocessed experiences can include:
- Pregnancies lived in solitude
- Deep emotional deprivation
- Hostile, toxic, or violent environments
- Silent grief from the loss of children
- Ancestors who died during childbirth
- Abuse, abandonment, or betrayal during pregnancy
When such experiences remain unresolved, they can leave an imprint in the family unconscious, sending hidden messages like:
- “Don’t have children because they suffer.”
- “Don’t have children because they die.”
- “Don’t have children because mothers risk their lives in childbirth.”
- “Don’t have children because fathers abandon.”
Infertility may then act as a subconscious solution to avoid repeating generational pain.
The Words We Hear, The Programs We Repeat
Not all messages are silent. Sometimes they are spoken out loud, in phrases many children have heard at home:
- “Because of you, I couldn’t live my life.”
- “I only got married because of pregnancy.”
- “Having children ruins everything.”
- “Your father left because of you.”
These painful sentences become unconscious programs, shaping beliefs that can block the desire—or even the ability—to have children.
A Real-Life Case
One young woman, perfectly healthy and happily married, struggled to conceive. All medical tests showed no biological problems, yet pregnancy never came.
Looking deeper into her family history, two powerful events surfaced:
- Her father abandoned the family when her mother was seven months pregnant.
- She was born on the exact date her grandmother had died while giving birth to her seventh child.
Through this exploration, the woman realized her hidden fears:
being betrayed during pregnancy, risking her life in childbirth, and feeling rejected because of body changes.
Her infertility was not a medical incapacity—it was an unconscious protection against inherited wounds and the fear of repeating them.
The Gestational Project-Sense
During pregnancy, mother and child share the unconscious almost completely. Everything the mother, father, and close environment experience is transmitted to the baby until around age three.
This is known as the gestational project-sense. It shows us that every child carries an unconscious mission: to respond to unresolved needs in the family lineage.
Beyond the Physical
Infertility is not always a biological barrier. Often, it is a message from the family unconscious—a way of avoiding unresolved grief, abandonment, loss, or trauma still alive in the clan’s memory.
The healing journey begins with awareness: making the unconscious conscious, looking at family stories with compassion, and choosing to live differently today.
Questions for Reflection
- What messages about having children did you hear while growing up?
- What stories of losses, deaths, abortions, or abandonments exist in your family?
- Could your infertility—or fear of becoming a parent—be a hidden protection against inherited pain?
- If you could free yourself from repeating these patterns, what new possibilities would open for you?